We either stand or fall by what we think of ourselves. One of the greatest assets which we can possess is our own unqualified endorsement of ourselves. When you feel down about ourselves or we feel we are not good enough for anything, we have low self-esteem. If you don’t have a high self-esteem, it means you don’t even honor yourself, and everyone has the right to reject you as an impostor, because you claim to be worthy of their opinion when you don’t even have your own.
If you can respect your tremendous potential for good, or if you can come into a recognition of yourself, you will be a great success, and grow by leaps and bounds.
Schelling said, “If a man possesses the consciousness of what he is, he will soon also learn what he ought to be; let him have a theoretical respect for himself, and a practical will soon follow”. Once you believe in yourself, you will always feel adequate and capable of accomplishing anything.
Here are best ways to improve your self-esteem and feel better about who you are.
1. Never ever depreciate yourself
It’s a crime to depreciate yourself. It has been said that man is his own worst enemy. When you depreciate yourself, it means you don’t like yourself or who you are. Self-depreciation is terrible and dispiriting. It destroys self-esteem, our balance, and beauty of poise, which characterize our true humanity. People depreciate themselves because they have not discovered themselves. They know about other things, but when it comes to self, the knowledgeable jam is spread mighty thin upon the bread of life.
“I couldn’t even possibly do that”, “I don’t have such talent to achieve that”, “I am not a genius so I can’t do it”. These are some of the many small distasteful evaluations of self that we hear people expressing every day. The best way for us to deceive ourselves is to fail to believe in ourselves and our abilities. Our self-esteem is an upright opinion of our own personality and it is the greatest assurance against wrong choices, malicious propensities, and failures.
2. Discover yourself
If we could only recognize our true capabilities, we would appreciate ourselves. You would start seeing more upright physiques, raised eyes and heads which would look forward and upward. To respect and appreciate self, we must first discover self. When we come into this recognition we can go on a road that will lead us to successful achievements. This means that you have to learn the way before you can find it. Every knowledge starts from yourself, when we discover yourself, you will also discover that doors of opportunity are wide open for you. When you discover yourself, your self-esteem will be improved. Then, people will stand aside to let you pass. Self-esteem is the honorable vestment with which you can clothe yourself, it is the most uplifting feeling that can inspire the mind, any day any time.
3. Never compromise with your conscience
If you have discovered yourself, you will understand how conscience works. It is the invaluable judge of our thoughts and actions. It is that voice from within that approves our honorable acts as evidently as it expresses its disapproval. Our conscience develops our character. If we disregard or ignore it, our character would deteriorate.
You should never try to compromise with conscience or try to act dishonorably. Even if you are famous and sought after by everyone, if your conscience has been tampered with, you will be seen as a fraud. On the other hand, if you don’t compromise with your conscience, your self-esteem would improve and no matter what else you might lose, you will always be a conqueror.
4. Never compare yourself to others
It is a bad idea to compare yourself to other people. Everyone has a different life purpose, fate, and journey, so we are not the same. When you compare yourself to other people, you are insulting yourself and doing an irrational act. Measuring yourself against your friends, people you see on the street or even in school can make you develop a very low self-esteem. Well, if you compare achievements and personal progress, it is somewhat accepted as a normal thing. Everyone does it purposefully. But, the moment you start comparing yourself to other people and you feel you come short of them, you are in danger. It can be detrimental to your growth, success and happiness.
Instead of comparing yourself to someone who you think is more beautiful, you should compare yourself to yourself. Instead of comparing yourself to someone who is more successful or who is excellent at what they do, you should find out how and what they did to become as successful as they are. When you learn from them, you will be much more successful than they are. When you make a shift in your attitude, you will be able to focus your attention on your personal development rather than trying to figure why someone else is better than you. This will help you improve your self-esteem and you will begin to feel delightfully pleasurable about yourself.
5. Don’t try to be perfect
Perfection continues to create significant issues for people and their ability to accomplish what they want. Many of us are walking around trying to be perfect in some way. We want the perfect partner, the perfect job, the perfect body or the perfect house. We have always waited for the perfect moment or to be perfectly ready to do something or to face a new challenge in order to make changes into our lives. This is outrageous! When we do this, we fall into the perfection trap and we miss out on so many opportunities that life brings our way.
We try to be perfect by measuring ourselves against the perfection of other people. We forget that every piece of a puzzle is unique and perfect. Why would the round piece of puzzle want to be in a square form? Even the square piece is thinking itself as imperfect when it compares itself to the round piece. We are all unique in our own way, the moment you know this, you will appreciate yourself and have an improved self-esteem. Why would you want to be or look like another piece anyways? When we force ourselves to fit into where we are not meant for, life becomes frustrating, problematic and worthless.
6. Be free to make mistakes
Mistakes should always be seen as a negative thing because it can help us improve our self-esteem and learn great things about life. Many people are afraid of making mistakes. The fear of making mistakes is one of the utmost barricades in taking actions towards achieving your goals. The fear of mockery when you make any mistakes, the fear of losing your self-respect or confidence when you fail, the fear of looking bad in front of others or the fear of wasting time and resources. All these fears make us lose our self-esteem because they make us lose faith in ourselves. Be free to make mistakes if you want to build and improve your self-esteem. Making mistake is how we move forward in life. They compel us to make changes in our lives, it doesn’t matter if its good or bad. When we base our future choices on the mistakes we have made in the past, it helps us to respect our self and have confidence in our abilities.
You can also improve your self-esteem by doing things that you enjoy, exercising to look healthy and fit, meeting new people and enjoy everything life brings your way. You should try to preserve your self-esteem, no matter what the problem or difficulty is. In fact, you can do away with your property and wealth but always hold to your self-esteem.